These days mothers have no time. That’s why we want those forty days—not as a punishment. We are asking that for those forty days the mother and child be together so that creativity and values can be established. From the 120th day in the womb to those forty days from birth, the entire character and values of the child are built – Yogi Bhajan
I have read so many birth plans in the hospital, but not one patient has prepared a post birth plan. I do not mean a plan on how to handle the first week, but a plan on how to best serve the mother and the infant for at least three months after birth.
Everyone cares about the health of the baby postpartum, but few care about the health of the mother. The mother infant relationship is symbiotic. When the mother suffers the infant suffers.
I was raised by both of my Grandmothers who were very different when it came to the upkeep of their homes and of themselves. My father’s mother, Weasy (I could not pronounce Louise) was always a little disheveled with a chaotic home full of cluttered items. My other Grandma Eva held her home, and her appearance, in the highest regard. Through her I learned the meaning of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder; at the time it wasn’t funny, but now it is. I never knew that it was not normal to fold and then refold laundry multiple times or to organize smaller bags in larger ones until I went to college. Through these polar opposite personalities I was able to come to neutral territory about the organization of a home, the importance of letting go of items not needed, and keeping ones with specific meaning that add energetic movement to areas.
Clutter is anything that is getting in the way of you living the life of your dreams and can take the form of mental thoughts, excess weight, physical items, money, or even relationships. Clutter can be internal or external. Here we are going to focus on the connection between clutter in your home and your overall wellbeing. If your house is constantly a mess, you hold on to items from the past, or you have not completed a spring-cleaning – like ever – in your life, it is time to find out the meaning behind your clutter.
Here is a list of 15 things that nobody talks about regarding having a newborn. The only thing I could focus on when I was pregnant was the birth. I had no idea how much my life would change, especially in the first six weeks.
Everybody talks about the baby bliss! Nobody talks about the nitty gritty issues. So here it goes…
As a nurse I have found that many women come in to the hospital expecting a vaginal birth and feel unprepared when they end up with a c-section. For obvious reasons (such as fear) they avoided education on this surgery because they felt it would never happen to them.
The average cesarean rate in the United States is 33% and sadly this rate is rising. Preparing for a healthy surgery and positively moving on after the experience is important for emotional and physical healing. The key to healing is a complete willingness to go through the procedure. But who is really prepared to let themselves be cut open? Who can “let go” that easily?
Obviously, people feel ambivalence or vulnerability when it comes to surgery. If you have had a c-section (or any surgery) in the past old memories may resurface, especially if you were not completely comfortable with the procedure. The body is able to store these memories in the tissues themselves. Emotions may arise later such as grief, loss, and depression. It is just as important to heal on the energetic level after a surgery as the physical level.
