5 Ways to Know Your Physical Elements are Unbalanced & Heal
A snippet of my new book FERTILE.
Unfortunately, it usually takes someone hitting rock bottom before they are ready to make changes in their life or clear limiting patterns, painful memories or self- sabotaging tendencies. For some, it is a lot easier to forge ahead and numb the pain on a Friday night then actually deal with it. You don’t know how bad it is, or how much better it can actually become, until you are forced to take a deep look in the mirror and make a change. You can continue to blame every relationship or person in your life for your issues, but it really has nothing to do with them. It is all you love.
If you haven’t had the chance to see how your past effects your present this section should shine some light on this area for you. If you have tried to hide or ignore physical or sexual abuse, traumatic births, miscarriages or abortions (or anything that directly affects your body or body image) it is time to look at these wounds head on. Even if none of this has happened to you I know that you have a friend or a distant family member who has been effected. You have the power to heal this for all of these women. This work matters because until all of us are ready to rise up there is still more work to do on earth. My hope is that you can begin to see all your weaknesses and heal them for your children.
The Effects of Unbalanced Elements in Your Body
Earth (cube): Is the element that can weigh you down when unbalanced. Reflect on what your life looks like, which can be in the representation of a house. When you are spiritually developing it is common to dream of houses in different forms, as these are representations of your physical and spiritual bodies changing. Is your current house dirty, clean, cluttered, falling apart or in need of minor repairs? Do you move around a lot or miss your rent if you do not own your house? When your life begins to crumble do you have the ability to build it back up just like you would a solid structure? If you have been abused, neglected or hurt your earth element will not come together. Basically, your house won’t be strong.
I will use the example of sexual abuse throughout the rest of this elemental section for the sake of simplicity. You can replace much of the following information with whatever type of trauma or drama you have experienced, as it all effects the elemental and physical makeup of your life. Examples of events that physically effect you include sickness, pain, miscarriages, rape, surgeries, physical abuse or traumatic births. The effects of these events vary in intensity for each individual, but the physical density will always weigh you down because the memories are held within the body. You will likely be able to see parts of yourself or another within all of these unbalanced elements. Now, back to our example…
If you have been sexually abused there will always be mistrust of the perpetrator. Until you have healed, you will attract lower nature Beings and people into your life due to your feelings of being unworthy or impure. If you were abused at a very young age, and never had a relationship before this encounter, you will always feel impurity because of loss of innocence at such a young age. You may continue to abuse yourself by sleeping with various men or being around men or people who hurt you. You will inadvertently and continuously attract the people with the same vibration in order to re-live the trauma in the hopes of healing it. This is something that you cannot stop. Unhealed trauma, or ancestral wounds, live within the subconscious and arise to be eliminated.
Abuse can cause anger and may make you feel like you need to get back at the world, or the perpetrator or the situation that caused you pain. Through the healing process you may grow into the archetypes of the lover or the mother, but not always in the healthiest way. It is critical for you to comprehend how pain can creep up into the present, whether it is a miscarriage, rape or even traumatic birth these memories are held in your body and will be retriggered through current events. In order to heal, you have to look at all the ways that you need to rebuild your life. In my book, Mystical Motherhood, I taught how to use Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs in order to become a fulfilled woman. This theory is applicable to healing the earth element. Start with ensuring your needs of nutrition, sleep, sex and shelter are met then slowly move up the hierarchy into meeting the needs of safety, love, belonging and self-esteem.
Fire (tetrahedron): This element represents the abuse or violence itself. It is a moment in time that burns a hole in your pocket for a lifetime which makes everything fall through. It is the opening of the legs or the taking from the womb. Fire is nature out of control. It is fierce pain that pierces through you like a burning in your heart, soul or yoni. The flame burns continuously until it is put out and anything that comes into your field will catch on fire too. You may attract very low or unconscious people so that you can burn them. This will help you to feel in control again or prove to yourself that you still have power. When this occurs, you know your fire is out of control. It is easier to see the weaknesses in others before ourselves: Do you have a friend that burns through partners or jobs? Do they partake is mischievous or self-sabotaging behaviors and not necessarily comprehend the damage that they have done to others or themselves?
An unbalanced fire element creates self-destructive and painful choices that hurt the individual and everyone around them. As you begin to purify, the salt of your tears will clear you and put the fire out. If you were sexually or physically abused part of the healing is pushing off the perpetrator in real life using a pillow. You have to go back to the moment in time to relive all of the pain, physically feel and act it out, in order to burn it out of your system. Going back in time and rescuing the inner child, who is still wounded, is a vital part of the healing process. You can actually locate your wounded child in time and put her in a safe place surrounded by loving items and people. My inner child is living in Big Sur with a loving grandmother. She spends her days playing and gardening. Many people I know create a physical alter in their house for their inner child with toys and books. Taking the steps to heal your wounded child will help you to prosper in the present moment.
In order to heal you can go through your memory bank and find all the painful events that are still hurting you. Take a sabotaging pattern such as, always being afraid that your partner is cheating and going to leave you, and find all the memories where you felt abandoned throughout your childhood. Relive these experiences out in your mind’s eye and burn the whole story with the purple flame of St. Germaine. Find the locations of these memories within your chakras and organ systems by closing your eyes and trusting in their location.
This physical density will often show up as shapes or colors that need to be burned out along with your memories. Your past is connected to limiting belief systems or negative thought patterns that physically weigh you down and hold you back in life. It is critical that you don’t pass this emotional garbage on to your children. If you were physically hurt in any way, part of the healing is going back to the moment in time and pulling this memory out of your body. Using the element of fire to get rid of the event is a lot more useful than allowing the element to create havoc in your life.
Water (Icosahedron): When the water element is unbalanced it may feel like you are drowning in emotional grief. The emotions of suppression, depression or oppression are common. An event from the past may make the person push down the emotions so that they don’t have to talk or think about it. The level that this suppression takes place depends on their history and current environment. Water has the ability to hold all the elements like a container and at any time can release them causing havoc in a person’s life if left unhealed. This makes the individual a bit unpredictable.
If a person bottles up their emotions they may become untrustworthy or delusional in their words or actions. They create internal and external illusions about the status of their life to themselves and other people to hide the pain. This can come in many forms such as acting like everything is alright when it is not in relationships, career or self-love. It could also come in the form of over buying, eating, drinking or sleeping. These individuals are often embarrassed of who they really are and cannot face their faults so they begin to tell lies that may be big or small.
I have a friend who was inappropriately touched as a child. She continually feels all the unbalanced elements in her life, but the water element is very evident. She drowns herself in alcohol in order to numb the pain and tells lies to herself and other people to hide it. She overeats and then submerges her head in a toilet to bring the food up. She has created a front, or a barrage of stories about how good she doing externally, so that others cannot actually see how bad it is internally. She was so used to making things up that she got lost in her lies. This caused her to live constantly in the past or the future because she couldn’t handle being in her present life circumstances.
If your water element is unbalanced you may become a story maker. Truth will be difficult. Rampages of spending drinking or drugs are not uncommon in order to hide or suppress the pain. If this hits home, until the tears flow and the truth is unleashed you will be in a whirlwind of unresolved issues. You can alter the pattern of each element by mentally and spiritually using the element itself as the mode of healing. In order to heal the water element in yourself or another person you can create an illusionary watery healing area, or even go to this place in real life. Water represents the subconscious and unconscious issues within you. At this lagoon or water formation you can ask the Great Mother to purify you.
It is necessary to go through a purifying ceremony and ask for all the unresolved issues to come up in complete sobriety to be released. Within your home environment it is also necessary to let go of any objects that are causing you pain. Put away the memorabilia of any family members or friends that you would no longer like to associate with, such as pictures or gifts. All of these physical items carry a vibration which affects you. This is the process of dissolution which is the letting go of outmoded belief systems or ways of living. As you heal, you must start on the path of total truthfulness. Be honest with yourself about what has happened and how you have hurt yourself and others by submerging yourself and avoiding the pain. The inability to take responsibility for what happened in your past or avoidance of the memories allow healing to rise to the surface from the depths of your soul. This is the beginning of spiritual maturity.
Wind or Air (Octahedron): An unbalanced wind element creates a total whirlwind of a life. It makes an individual harsh and austere and can result in the loss of femininity. Have you ever seen someone who looks frail, tired, tight or stripped of life force? Their air element is not in balance, which can make the heart shut down. The heart may feel like it is alright, but everything in their life must be practical and done with total determination. There is a tremendous amount of vigor and the propensity to over achieve. This brings a lack of joy, natural flow and acceptance of what is. When you are always goal oriented it is hard to focus on the journey that gets you there.
Air can become hot and wound up creating a vortex of energy that runs down the sacral chakra, or center of gravity and power. Women with unbalanced air may become activists because they want to fight. Wind is the element of anger and when it is not properly released it creates inner turbulence and the need to be heard. Wind doesn’t easily calm down and can be destructive to the environment around it. The person may be constantly on edge and fearful about what will happen next. This causes a constant fight or flight creating high cortisol levels in the body. These individuals often have split off personalities at their worst and a rollercoaster of emotions to counterbalance.
An unbalanced air element may create the constant need to control everything and everyone around you. This may show in the neurotic tendency to clean, reorganize or constantly move around the house doing a lot, but not really getting much done at all. Control may come up in the form of food, work, friendships, weight, money, sex or love. In fact, control is one of the most common emotions that I work with within individuals who are trying to conceive. My clients who had controlling mothers, or childhoods, often suffer from attempting to control every part of their process of becoming pregnant. The healing begins with the unwinding of the tornado and the constant need to move forward with tremendous speed. The train must come to the station. You need to look at all the places you are wound up and tight, everything you try to dominate and all the ways that you can let go. Start with releasing the little things first. With this comes more spontaneity and joy.
Ether or Prana (Dodecahedron): When this is in the destructive mode the element creates weakness and sickness. An example of this would be the loss of your menstrual cycle. Ether works on your energy body and makes you feel powerless. Being exposed to pain or frequencies that are discordant on the inside will eventually make your immune system weaken. If these painful experiences persist, they can break an individual down. When sickness and disease occurs, it is a sign of the separation of the soul from the body or Spirit. You may not be able to make decisions because you feel disconnected. You may not even be able to dream because the etheric body was torn.
If a traumatic event occurred and the person wasn’t able to protect themselves they may call on a protector. This can be detrimental because the protector can be an outside source such as a demon, entity or negative spiritual energy. It is not uncommon for individuals who have suffered from physical, sexual, mental abuse or alcoholism to have entities attached to them. It is in these moments of loss and desperation that an entity will acknowledge a similar energy and attach. You can pinpoint when someone has an entity, or negative energetic spirit, attached to them because they will suddenly change personalities. It is not uncommon for these individuals to be cruel, mischievous or self-sabotaging for no reason and completely out of the blue.
They typically find a way to ruin something when it gets good whether that is a job or relationship. There will likely be issues of love and abandonment with all their relationships and a constant need to blame or project. Once love gets too close they find a way to question it or push it away, which causes the other person confusion. These individuals will suck out your energy because it is necessary for the negative spirit to thrive. Just like a vampire would. They basically turn over their lives to the entity, which creates subpersonalities depending on how many entities have attached.
Trigger mechanisms are developed over time and the entity becomes the person’s personal navigation system through life constantly checking to see their environment is safe. The individual becomes incredibly sensitive to their environmental surroundings and may be affected by sounds, smells or feelings. It is not uncommon for entities to isolate the individual making the person hypervigilant of people and places. A lot of trust issues may arise because the person was so harmed by the original event. If this feels familiar for yourself or another person ask these questions: Do you sometimes not recognize yourself? Do you have moments of lost time? Do you ever forget what you said to another person even when they try to remind you? Do you often lose people or push them away? If any of these apply to you or someone close to you there may be an energy attached that is breaking down the life force.
Removing this type of energy cannot be done alone and requires help from an outside source. If you need help with this you need to find someone that is capable of the job. You can write into Mystical Motherhood for further assistance with this and either I can help you or I will direct you to a person who is the right match. It is imperative to find out why the spirit attached in the first place and ask why they are still there. Often times it is the individual who wants to keep the energy.
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