Tools to Improve Each of Your Relationships

Written by Chelsea O'Brien on April 10, 2018. Posted in Love and Belonging

I am going to be really honest here I have worked through a lot of attachment issues to people, places and things that sucked my energy dry. I am still working through these needs and desires, but I can truthfully tell you that it is getting easier. Because of all the inner work that I have done most these attachments are completely gone.

Let me give you one example from my past:

I had a male friend that I was constantly chasing for attention, and when he did not supply the love I needed, I went into a downward spiral. My focus for a very long time was put on what he was not doing. I was desperate for him to show me love and I waited for him to call or respond to my emails and texts with a heart-breaking neediness like a victim who lost her power. I was more interested in his approval and thoughts about me than how I thought about myself.

Attracting the Right Relationships

Written by Chelsea O'Brien on October 13, 2017. Posted in Love and Belonging

The most important relationship is the one you have with yourself. All of the people in your life are reflections of your past, present or future and can be utilized as a mirror to understand your state of wellbeing in order to change your vibration to a higher frequency. If you have issues in relationships it is never really about the other person, it is about the your misalignment with your true self and a lack of acceptance of what is. Rather than trying to change the way that other people act we need to learn to change our thoughts and emotions about the situation and ourselves. We must stop looking outside of ourselves for approval and love, and stop focusing on what other people think of us

We can gauge our alliance to Source by tuning into our emotions, overall mood and internal sensations. If we are emanating positive feelings such as joy, eagerness, acceptance, and enthusiasm for life, we know that we are going to attract similar experiences. If we are coming from a sense of lack and reside in a state of fear, worry, anger or frustration we are going to attract people with similar emotions. Our feelings are our built in navigation system, which helps us to see if we are out of alignment.