I am going to be really honest here I have worked through a lot of attachment issues to people, places and things that sucked my energy dry. I am still working through these needs and desires, but I can truthfully tell you that it is getting easier. Because of all the inner work that I have done most these attachments are completely gone.
Let me give you one example from my past:
I had a male friend that I was constantly chasing for attention, and when he did not supply the love I needed, I went into a downward spiral. My focus for a very long time was put on what he was not doing. I was desperate for him to show me love and I waited for him to call or respond to my emails and texts with a heart-breaking neediness like a victim who lost her power. I was more interested in his approval and thoughts about me than how I thought about myself.
“You learn more from hundred twentieth day to the seventh month than you learn in seventy years of your life.” –Yogi Bhajan
During pregnancy, everything you think, feel, and experience is passed on to your child through the womb. This period is crucial to developing a magical and intelligent individual, and your role is to remain in harmony and balance in order to provide the child with belief systems built on respect, appreciation, and love. If you settled into a daily meditation practice before conceiving, pregnancy is a time to go deeper and expand into greater gratitude and connection. If you have not established a meditation practice and you are pregnant, start now by incorporating any of the techniques discussed in this book. Kundalini Yoga and Meditation is the fastest way to let go of fear, guilt, and insecurities that may otherwise be passed on to your child.
During motherhood, you will have to consciously face the belief systems that were passed down through your family regarding nurturing. Your ability to remain stable will be constantly tested by a child capable of bringing all your neurotic tendencies to the surface. As long as you remain awake and aware, any habitual negative parenting behaviors passed down from previous generations can be faced and eliminated. You can heal the past web of expectations, needs, and miscommunication that occurred by taking a deeper look at the way your mother treated you and the way her mother treated her. In order to heal these webs, it is important to not habitually react in the same manner. Time heals all wounds, but the hard and holy work of daily self-psychology and meditation works much faster.
I started doing this Kundalini Yoga meditation almost a year ago and have worked through many of my attachments to people and situations that no longer serve me. If you are stuck repeating the same patterns over and over again and are ready to make a change in your life this is the meditation for you. It will help to elevate you beyond your family programming. If you are planning to become pregnant it will eliminate any negative programming from your childhood so that your son or daughter does not have to repeat the same energetic sequence of events in his or her life. Wow! That is powerful.
The meditation was actually taught by Yogi Bhajan as a “childhood meditation”. You can practice this with your children. Children follow what you do not what you say. By simply meditating in front of your children you are doing them a great amount of good. If they see you doing this consistently as they grow they will assume that meditation is a normal part of their day. If you are not sure how to begin to teach your children meditation this is a short description taken from the Aquarian Child Manual below.
Fertility is a delicate subject and like a flower needs to be discussed with care because when we want something so badly, and what we want does not come fast enough, there is an aching in our hearts that feels like we are being ripped open. When a woman is ready for a child, a gap grows in time and space, and the desire to hold the baby becomes the forefront of her thoughts. I have watched many friends battle with fertility issues and months pass with empty arms, more longing, less control, and a stronger desire for the outcome. I have also witnessed the unbearable loss of children in utero through my patients, which becomes a heavy burden of confusion after months of attempting to become pregnant. If you are trying to get pregnant and have become frustrated with the process, I don’t have all the answers here, as fertility is one of the greatest mysteries of our time, but I have simple theories that may shed some light on the space you are feeling inside. I am going to provide you with ways to better connect to your womb through meditations and the energetics of food.
In ancient times, women’s only focus as a young girl was bearing children, but in the modern day, we are blessed to spread our energy out in many directions. Women now focus on going to school, working, traveling, or buying their own house and have entered this male-dominated world with vigor. Though reaching high levels of our masculine nature can be rewarding, it can also create a dichotomy in our fields that disconnects us from our wombs. Many women spend years focused on achieving their goals and energetically pushed the thought of bearing children out of their field, so when the time comes that they are ready to bear a child, their body, mind, and spirit have to align. Women often have to make up for lost time quickly if they choose to have a baby later in life. Females have to relate to time in completely different ways than males do when it comes to their physical body and having children.
Just three to five years ago I had no idea what meditation was. I knew I wanted to feel better – and I knew for sure I was ready to connect to a higher source – but I didn’t know how. Now I meditate over an hour a day, cannot wait to wake up before the sun to do this, and am constantly connected to Spirit. I went from zero to one hundred. I also went from being over-emotional, clingy and disorderly to having a higher self-esteem, healthier relationships and overall better life. Meditation changed me. Let me tell you how….
When I became interested in spirituality I knew I was ready to learn and grow, but I didn’t know where to start. A friend told me about a practice called Vipassana from India. I was ready to try anything at that point so I signed up for a 10 day “retreat” (ha!) in a secluded residence. We could not speak or look at anyone in the eyes for 10 freakin days! We sat in a room for 12 hours a day in complete silence. I naturally went a bit crazy and knew that this practice wasn’t for me. They recommended that we sit silently in the morning and the evening from that point onward, which felt stifling. I think it is hard for anyone to sit still this long and assume that thoughts won’t come, dont you? If I was going to meditate I wanted to feel energetic about it so I kept praying that a practice would find me that would match my desire……
The most important concepts you must understand regarding conscious conception is that it takes a significant amount of mental, emotional, and spiritual preparation and that pregnancy is something you should absolutely not take on if you are not fully ready. People all over the world are procreating, but as we can see, not much has improved. This is why conscious conception is so important, and if you are reading this and prepared to do the work, you could change the planet. Throughout this book, I will refer to the male and female “partnership” when it comes to creating and raising a child because essentially that’s the base equation needed to produce, but I understand that families are made up of all sorts of equations. I am speaking to the single moms, split families, grandmothers, aunts, and fathers at different points throughout the text too as there are many ways to raise a child, and everyone needs to be on board. Conception requires just an ovum and a sperm, but if you want to do it consciously, and you are ready to bring a high vibrational Being on to this planet, I am here to discuss some things that should have been put into mass consumption years ago.
As a conscious and prepared woman, you need to be ready and not take the responsibility or bringing a life into this world lightly.
“It is absolutely wrong to be pregnant when you are spiritually, mentally, emotionally, or physically unprepared. It has been estimated that in a very fast society, eighty percent of all conceptions happen by chance… It is a very sad situation. To be very frank and honest, it will ruin the IQ of the child up to thirty-three percent. One-third of the possible IQ of the child, his potential health, his faculty of creativity, and his intelligence to deal with his personal security will be ruined if the mother was physically, mentally, and spiritually unprepared to conceive the child, and it will be a loss of another twenty percent if the father is similarly unprepared. Before it happens, the pregnancy should be totally, emotionally, characteristically, analytically, materially, physically, mentally, and spiritually discussed, planned, and noted down.”- Yogi Bhajan
